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Saturday 30 January 2016

A dream about relationships and where they are heading




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I was in an old house and I didn't recognise where I was, I was trying to find my PE kit for school, which is weird as I haven’t been to school for 9 years. 

This bit is about the past because it’s an old house you were in, you have moved on from the past so you don’t recognise it anymore, but because you are trying to find your PE kit the dream it is saying that you feel like you have left something important in your childhood, perhaps you have left the fun and active side of yourself there. Now you are an adult it’s all seriousness and maturity which means you are missing out on fun and activity which will keep you mentally/physically fit, and help you to be more relaxed about life. When we are children we just get on with life and it’s all about having fun and doing the stuff we want but as we get older we lose that relaxed part of our self. Searching for your PE kit is literally you trying to find that part of yourself again. 

Then I started dreaming of two convertible cars in white, I was with my sister who is younger than me and her two children. My sister was driving and I was really shouting at my sister saying “put out that cigarette”. 

Cars are used as a symbol for the support we have to move us forward in the direction we want or need to go. (Through life’s winding roads) The type and condition of the cars in our dream refer to the strength of the support we have and how that support is likely to help us get where we want to be. In other words, cars can represent the people around us who support us and help move us forward, they also help us to think about the life-journey we are on at the same time. Cars also stand to explain different situations to us, for example, a car going too fast is a way of explaining how we are moving too fast through our undertakings and opportunities will, therefore, be missed or rushing things will just lead to disaster. 

Convertible cars symbolise a support system that is adaptable and transformable which can only be a good thing, the colour can give you further clues and white is always a nice pure positive colour. I would say that you and your sister are very close and you do not have any negativity in your relationship if you did it would upset you greatly. The relationship has always been adaptable and bending, meaning that you are open to bending a little or meeting in the middle to make your relationship work, rather than have a falling-out you will agree to differ rather than not talk to each other. When you are telling her not to smoke the cigarette in the car with the children you are basically saying that you will tell her off if she needs it, or if you feel she needs sensible advice. This won’t damage your relationship because she would also tell you what you needed to hear. You care about her children as if they are your own and therefore this gives you the right to tell her how you feel about things. That’s what close families do. 

Then we bumped into my sister’s boyfriend who was in the same type of car and he had two child’s seats in the back, and I was telling him to take the children off my sister and he did. We followed him down this long road in a misty haze, there were dead trees and flowers around. That’s all I remember about that part of the dream and then I woke up. 

Your brother-in-law driving the same car as you might be a way of explaining how he seems to be of like mind and on a similar journey to you all, he seems family orientated, but the road he leads you down is misty and hazy and there are dead flowers and trees. Therefore it seems as though where he is heading will cause things to die off, flowers blooming symbolise relationships blooming so when they die it can symbolise how relationships die off. Dead trees give a similar translation, deadwood will not grow and flourish as you know. It seems like the road he has chosen could eventually lead to the demise of his relationship with your sister and ultimately you and your family. Because it is misty and hazy the outcome is not set in stone because he might change his ways or they might work hard to work their relationship through. In other words, the future is hazy and cannot, therefore, be easily predicted for sure.

You, however, will be more concerned about how any chosen routes by the couple will affect their children because they are the ones who you see will get hurt if there is a break down I marriage. 

I finally went back to sleep and I dreamed about this big mountain on a cloud or something like this, it was very close to the sky, it was white with mist and fog in different places and when I looked at the sky it was really blue and I could see a lot of stars, thunder and the moon which was very bright.

The big mountain will represent the ‘mountain to get over’, it could be a mountain of anything, like issues etc. it is basically symbolic for a large obstacle which needs to be negotiated, probably by your sister but because you are so close I see that you would always be by her side helping her overcome any obstacle she meets. The obstacle/issues might be to do with her relationship with her partner/husband. The mist and fog like I said could symbolise the unknown outcomes of events and also the confusion that your sister feels about what to do. The sky is blue you notice and this is very true, perhaps your sister will need to be reminded that whatever the outcomes and choices are the clouds and storms will eventually pass and leave blue skies in her life once again. Time is a great healer and life will become sunny and warm again. You are the best person to remind her of this fact. 

The moon is the controller of emotions and it is our own emotions that allow us to see things clearly/hazily or see things as positive or negative. Storms pass and blue skies will return when the emotions allow. 

Then everyone in my dream was singing in a circle and the song was odd and out of time, it was a bit like a campfire song.

This will represent the family circle, the family sitting around the campfire is symbolic for how the family comes together to keep warm. This is what family’s do, stay together to keep warm, they might be out of tune with each other and be singing from a different song sheet but they stay together and support each other. This is how you envisage the family unit and hopefully, your sister and her partner will do too. 

Then my sister took the kids and had to run away and I followed them but it was like the mountain turned into a waterfall and we had no choice but to jump from where we were. 

Perhaps your sister wants to run away from her problems and you would follow her wherever she went, to help bring her back to sense. Whatever she goes through you go through too. The mountain obstacle turns into a waterfall, or in other words all the issues mounting up become too overwhelming and turn into emotional tears. 

Jumping down is scary especially when you don’t know how you are going to land or where. In other words, your sister doesn't know how she is going to land when but has to come back down to earth. She has to pull it together because she has children to care for. Jumping down is another way of saying you have to take a chance, just shut your eyes and jump and see where you land. 

When people have important decisions to make and don’t know which way to jump, this type of symbol is used. 

I was screaming and crying saying I couldn't do it!

That’s because you don’t know the best thing to do either!

Eventually, I jumped with someone who I think might have been my partner grabbing my leg for support. 

Your partner will be there to support you when you need it!

When I finally got to the bottom of the long fall, my younger sister and a few others were waiting for my other sister and one of her children to jump, but they weren't allowed to jump together for some reason. 

Falling can also symbolise being dropped or let go of, your support system has let you down, it’s obviously not your support system that fails it is your sisters (her partner)

Your sister and her daughter can’t jump together because ultimately they will go through their own emotions in different ways. They might not be able to share how they feel about everything with each other. But they will both feel let down in different ways. 

My sister finally let her daughter jump on to this gym mat and then everyone kept saying that Ruby was premature and people kept staring like it was all some game.

Your sister lets her daughter jump because she knows she can’t protect her from life and its emotions. She can try hard to cushion the blow but she can’t protect her from hurting. 

But it seemed to me like her daughter had died and didn't make the jump. When my sister jumped she was nowhere to be seen. 

You feel that some part of your sister's daughter will die off because of the hurt she is feeling, but believe me, she will become strong and get over it with time. You also feel that she is too young to have to go through tough things which is why people were saying she is premature, you see her as vulnerable and too young to be strong. She is strong though!

Your sister disappeared because she will need some time alone to make her own decisions in her own time. You will not be able to interfere with her choices. 

This dream was horrible and not connected to any of our current situations, I get on really well with my sister and she is a brilliant mum. I am like a second mum to my nieces and nephews. 

The situation this dream is referring to has not happened yet! 

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